How Do You Discipline Your Child?
Barb: The Fear Factor
I am a subscriber to what I like to call the “fear factor.” Yes, I would rather be respected by my children than liked. I am their parent not their friend.
So with that philosophy in mind, I have two forms of discipline that are a bit sterner than Jen’s, but have been extremely effective for my family.
Verbal Spankings
This is where I raise my voice until it becomes very authoritative. They know mommy means business and are scared to find out what that “business” is.
Don’t Engage
Now that my girls are 10-years-old, this is my most effective disciplinary tool. When my kids are giving me attitude (aka. smart mouth), I ignore them completely. After a few moments I calmly and simply say, “I don’t appreciate the way you are speaking to me. When you are ready to talk in a respectful way, I will listen.” Within 5 minutes they’re saying, “I am so sorry mommy!”
Do not underestimate your value as a mom and how much your kids need you. I don’t mind the cooking, cleaning, and homework help… as long as they are crystal clear that the price is respect.
