How Do You Discipline Your Child?
Barb: The Fear Factor
I am a subscriber to what I like to call the “fear factor.” Yes, I would rather be respected by my children than liked. I am their parent not their friend.
So with that philosophy in mind, I have two forms of discipline that are a bit sterner than Jen’s, but have been extremely effective for my family.
This is where I raise my voice until it becomes very authoritative. They know mommy means business and are scared to find out what that “business” is.
Now that my girls are 10-years-old, this is my most effective disciplinary tool. When my kids are giving me attitude (aka. smart mouth), I ignore them completely. After a few moments I calmly and simply say, “I don’t appreciate the way you are speaking to me. When you are ready to talk in a respectful way, I will listen.” Within 5 minutes they’re saying, “I am so sorry mommy!”
Do not underestimate your value as a mom and how much your kids need you. I don’t mind the cooking, cleaning, and homework help… as long as they are crystal clear that the price is respect.